12 Grounds Why You Should Not Live Your Life the Way You Want it Even Though it’s Your Life

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12 Grounds Why You Should Not Live Your Life the Way You Want it Even Though it’s Your Life

 

Living your life the way you want it may not be the best for you. The way some people are living their lives give them joy but are equally harming their lives as well. It is often said that the things people like or love the most often kill them the most. So, one need to be careful the way he or she is living his or her life. Here are some grounds why should not live your life the way you want it even though it’s your life:

1.     Regret: The term regret means sadness associated with some wrong done some disappointment. It is to feel remorse for; feel sorry for; be contrite about past wrong actions. Regret is a negative and sad feeling that you experience as a consequences of previous or past wrong doings or actions or behaviors. 

It often manifest after the deeds has been done. It steals away one’s joy and happiness. It gives birth to other negative sad feelings, such as self-pity and the likes. And can eventually leads to the act of committing suicide. Choosing to live your life the way you want even though it is your life can limit you from discovering yourself.

You do not just live your life the way you want it, because, the way you want it may be detrimental to your progress both morally and other wise. The truth is that, living you’re the way you want just because it is your life can come with regret you did not bargained for before now.  

2.     Undue sorrow: The word undue means beyond normal limits. Not appropriate or proper (or even legal) in the circumstances. When your sorrow mood is beyond normal than usual, that sorrow is termed undue sorrow. The word sorrow is an emotion of great sadness associated with loss or bereavement. It is to feel grief. It is sadness associated with some wrong done or some disappointment. It is something that causes great unhappiness. It is the state of being sad.

Undue sorrow is the result of living your life the way you want it just because it is your life without taking into consideration of the consequences that follow. Living your life the way you want it, may be conflicting with certain norms of moral cum spiritual conduct. You don’t just live your life the way you like it or living it anyhow without proper guiding principles. You need strong guiding principles or strong philosophies of life.

But if you want to live life the way you want it based on soft principles or philosophies, you will have difficulty going through your problems and challenges. And you may prevent or hinder your dream from coming home or coming through. If you must live your life the way you like, it is good for you to ponder much on this: ‘Love pleasure ends but a moment but love sorrow ends one’s whole life’.  

3.     Poverty: Poverty is the state of having little or no money and few or no material possessions. Another end result of living your life the way you want just because it is your life is poverty. If you are just living your life the way you want it by just pampering yourself and refusing to follow the better rules of conduct. Even though, you want to live your life the way you want it, it does not mean you should be careless or carefree about it. 

Living your life the way you want it requires discipline or self-discipline. When you are living your life the way you want outside discipline, you are tactically inviting poverty into your life. Even though, it is your life, don’t just live it anyhow the way you want it because the way you want it may not be the best. Poverty is even worse than Corona Virus and HIV/AIDS or both diseases put or combine together. You need to think deeply before choosing to live your life the way you want it.

4.     Depression: Depression is a state of characterized by a pessimistic sense of inadequacy and a despondent lack of activity. It is a sad feelings of gloom and inadequacy. Inadequacy means a lack of competence due to or caused by pessimistic tendency. Despondent means without or almost without hope. Lack of activity shows up when you are without hope or when you lose your hope. Gloom means a feelings of melancholy apprehension. It is an atmosphere of depression and melancholy. 

The word melancholy is a feeling of thoughtful sadness. It is characterized by or causing or expressing sadness. It is constitutional tendency to be gloomy in character. The above meanings cited here are meant to show how deep and harming depression is. One outcome of living your life the way you want it is depression. When you choose to live your life anyhow you like, always have at the back of our mind that depression is by the corner.

When you are rule by depression, your will lose your focus and certain of your strength. You cannot be able to do what you are supposed to do and should do and must do. When you are not happy, you cannot achieve your desires because depression limits people. Choosing to live your life the way, often come with depression.

Even though it is your life, you need to be mindful of dos and don’ts of how to live your life. The way people enjoy living their lives is one of the reason why many people remain the way they are without improvement.   

5.     Frustration: Frustration is a feeling of annoyance at being hindered or criticized. It is the act of frustrating; disappointment; defeat. It is the feeling that accompanies an experience of being thwarted in attaining your goals. Frustration kills one’s happiness. It brings undue sadness or sorrow and anger. It weakens the mind and the physical power of the person experiencing it. In the face of one or more disappointment or defeat, people choose to be sad. 

Instead of keep going, many people will quit or give up. Frustration often comes, when you cannot overcome your difficulties. Overcoming difficulties is a daily thing. It is not a onetime affair. That is why it said that, one or thousands of frustrations, keep going. Do not give up.  Frustration can distract you from what you should be doing. The tendency to give up is high, when frustration governs you.

You will lose your mind when you are dominated by frustration. Your mind becomes unsteady and moves everywhere. You are born to win and shine like a star. If you choose to live your life the way you want it, you may find it too hard to shine like a star. People who shine like stars or who are able to make their dreams come true, do so by not living their life the way they want. They were living their lives based on certain healthy ideals or strong principles.

One thing that often stop most people from fighting their deepest fear is frustration. When you choose to live your life the way you like, remember that frustration may become your best friend. You may lose certain things because you are choosing to live your life the way you want it.

6.     Self-pity: Self-pity is a feeling (often self-indulgent) over your own sufferings. When you are doing what you are not supposed to be doing but thinking it is the right things to do, sooner or later, when the consequences of your actions will strike in your life, one of the result of such actions is self-pity. The sad feeling you have over your own suffering caused by yourself is self-pity. 

It weigh you down and make you weak. Self-pity comes when you discover that you lose much because of your own negative lifestyle. What you are supposed to do, you are not doing them. Self-pity weakens the mind and strength. Self-pity is limiting most people in fighting their battles.

When you live your life anyhow and things never work well as you are expecting, you will become demoralized and then, you subsequently give in to self-pity and you may give up completely on yourself. Self-pity can make you to lose sight of your dream as well.

7.     Squandering: The word squandering means spending resources lavishly and wastefully. Doing what you love is one thing that is making most people to want to live their life the way they want or like. By so doing they keep squandering their money to please themselves stupidly. Most times, the way most people want to live their lives is self-harming but unknowingly to them they think they are enjoying their lives. 

When you are wasteful, living your life the way you want, you may discovered that you have squander all your money. Most often, squandering happens when you are living your life carelessly. This is one result of wanting to live your life the way you want. The prodigal son was squandering his wealth foolishly and blindly living his life just the way he wants but what was the aftermath of that style of living?

Let your mind runs wide on this issue. Most of the time when people choose to be living their lives the way they want, you will find out that they cannot do so without squandering of their hard earn money. If you want to live your life the way you want, be careful, you may squander all your money or wealth. And subsequently, you may become poorer than expected.  

8.     Self-defeating: The way many people choose to live their lives is self-defeating.  You may be living your life the way you want it but yet, you are defeating yourself because of what you are doing. You have a dream to catch but the way you are living your life, does not gives you the chance to do the needful. When you are living your life the way you want it, some of the things you may be doing may be the things to you love but those things may not be what will take you to the top.

Self-defeating activities are always enjoyable and pleasant. Just because you want to do what you like or live the way you want, the way you want might be the wrong way. If the way you want to live your life is faulty, you will have difficulty in catching your dream. You are most often your worst enemy. It is often said that, ‘Not all that glitter are gold’.

So the way you live your life may be ok for you but may bring you down. Self-defeating is one of the major killer of most people dreams. When you are doing what is not the main thing, no matter how you love it, you still remain the same. If you do not want to experience self-defeat, stop living your life the way you like.

9.     Self-delusion or self-illusion: some people live their lives on delusion or illusion. Delusion is an erroneous belief that is held in the face of evidence to the contrary. It is a mistake or unfounded opinion or idea. It is the act of deluding; deception by creating illusory ideas. At some other times, most people live their lives based on self-delusion or self-illusion.

The act of self-delusion is making people to do contrary to what is expected or required of them. Self-delusion hinders progress and growth of people. When you are living your life on delusion or illusion, you will be doing the wrong things thinking they are the right thinking. 

Living your life the way that you want can make you to chase after your illusion or delusion. Living your life the way you want often leads to self-delusion or self-illusion. Because, most people think they are right living their lives the way they want. Self-delusion is one of the way most people choose to be poor.

10.  Thoughtlessness: Many persons are living their lives based on thoughtlessness. They often act without thinking carefully before acting. Thoughtlessness is the trait of not thinking carefully before acting. It is also the quality of failing to be considerate of others. There are many people who are living their lives the way they want based on thoughtlessness. People keep living their lives without thoughtfulness. 

Living your life the way you want may lead to thoughtlessness which in turn pulls you back from achieving your purpose. Thoughtlessness is both a cause and effect of living your life the way you want. When you do not think carefully before acting, you are living your life the way you want and that is not okay. Thus, you have plan to fail.

And when you think carefully before acting, you are still living your life the way you want and that is okay. Thus, you have plan to win or succeed. The way you live your life may be a stumbling block to you. Thoughtlessness very often, becloud your judgement. And you cannot think deeply any longer.

And thereby, you end up doing the less important things first and the important things last. This shows lack of wisdom in the way you are living your life.

11.  Carelessness: some people lived their lives based on carelessness. Carelessness is the quality of not being careful or taking pains. It is the failure to act with the prudence that a reasonable person would exercise under the same circumstances. The way people choose to live their lives often tend to promote neglect or escape or evasion or dodging. 

 Because most people do not want to take pains, living their lives the way they want is the best option for them. When the prodigal son was living his life the way he want, his carelessness was a big blow on his faith. Instead of trusting himself, he was pampering and doubting himself.

Many people are living their lives based on carelessness. When carelessness rules over you, you will be escaping your duty or neglecting your responsibilities.

12.  Distress: distress means psychological suffering. It is to bring into difficulties or distress especially financial hardship. It is a state of adversity (danger or affliction or need). It is to cause mental pain to. It is extreme physical pain. Many people are in distress because of the way they choose to live their lives. 

They do every other things but the main thing. What they are supposed to be interested in doing they shun and what they are not supposed to do and be doing, they embrace.

When you are living your life just the way you want without putting certain things into considerations, you will always fall into distress. And when you are dominated by distress, you will no longer, be able to catch your dream.

These above twelve reasons is why you should not live your life the way you want it, even though it’s your life.