See 16 Reasons Why You Should Never Get Angry With Those Who Disappoint You

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See 16 Reasons Why You Should Never Get Angry With Those Who Disappoint You

The term angry means the feeling of showing anger. Anger is a strong emotion; it is a feeling that is oriented towards some real or supposed grievance. It is the state of being angry. It is to become angry. Annoyance is anger produced by some annoying irritations (displeasure, frustration or irritation) etc. disappoint means the failure to meet the hopes or expectations of somebody. Looking at the above meanings in regard to the words angry and disappoint in relation to the receiver and the giver, it is very important to bring to the mind or notice of people some reasons they should never get angry with those who disappoint them. Below are some of the reasons:

1.       Being sad or happy is your choice and not theirs for anger is depressing: Happiness is a choice. It is your choice to be happy or sad. When you choose to be happy, is not that nobody can make you sad. It is because, you choose not to be sad in spite of the things some people have done to you. Being sad or happy is a choice you make by yourself for yourself. It is not what other people make for you.

Do not empower other people to choose for you to be sad. Being sad is your own choice. You are the only one qualify enough to make yourself sad or happy. The power to make yourself sad or happy lies with you and not with them. Other people have no power to make you sad except if you permit them. Anger is really depressing; it makes people to become joyless and unhappy.

Happiness is free. If happiness is free, why choose to be sad? Because, it is depressive to be sad, that is why some people choose to be happy.  If you choose to be sad, it is okay. But, you give other people the chance to affect your life negatively. You will give people the privilege to do and undo what they want with your life. Since happiness is free and it cost not a dime, why not choose to be happy instead of choosing to be sad. Being happy helps you to stay and remain strong.

Being sad is self-harming. Your being angry has more to do with you than with other people. You are setting yourself free from the chains of sadness by not being angry with people who disappoint you. People who disappoint you do so, because, it is their choice to do so. That is why they disappoint you.

Even though other people disappoint you, it is still not strong enough to make you choose to be sad. Yes they may disappoint you, but they lack the power to make you sad because you have already choose to be happy. Celebrate! Happiness is free.       

2.       The bitter heart kills its owner: A Ghanaian proverb says that, ‘the bitter heart kills its owner’. This is a fact. The bitter heart harm or kills the owner and not the person being angry at. This means that, if you angry at some body for what the person has done, the anger is killing you and not the person you are angry at.

One thing that kills is anger. Your anger kills you without you knowing. It takes much from you. When you are angry, you tend to release more energy from your system than normal. If the bitter heart kills its owner, why suffering yourself in making your heart bitter. Because the bitter heart kills its owner, you do not have business getting angry with those who disappoint you.      

3.       You lose your peace of mind: You will have trouble mind or you will lose your composure. If you are angry with people who disappoints you, you will lose your peace of mind or you will have a trouble mind or you may lose your composure. When you have your peace of mind, your mind become more stable and focus than when you lose your peace.

You tend to experience depression when you lose your peace of mind. You will increase your stress more when you lose your peace of mind. Other things you will start feeling when you lose your peace of mind are dismay, distress, frustration, over-worry or anxiety and unnecessary anger or annoyance, and the likes.

Because your peace of mind is very important to you, you do not see any good reason why should get angry with people who disappoint you.

4.       Be strong. Do not give people the chance to frustrate your life: Most of the disappointment are intentional acts. They can come from other people or from the individual himself or herself. But the focus is on the disappointment that come from other people. So, if you must get angry, it should be with yourself. Because, on a daily basis, people disappoint themselves more.

Do not give people the chance to frustrate your life. The more you tend to get angry with people who disappoint you, the more you are giving them the chance to frustrate your life. The sadder you are, the more frustrated you become. One of the punches of life is disappointment.

So, no matter how life punches you be strong and stay strong. Because, you have choose to be strong and stay strong, it does not cross your mind to be getting angry with people who disappoint you.

5.       Learn to celebrate yourself and your small victories: When you are learning to celebrate yourself and your small victories, you will have no time to be angry with people who disappoint you. It is because most of us do not practice the act of celebrating ourselves and our small victories that is why we tend to get angry with people who disappoint us.

The more you learn to celebrate yourself and your small victories, the less you get angry with people who disappoint you. The more you are getting angry with people who disappoint you, the less you celebrate yourself and your small victories and the more you stop celebrating yourself and your small victories. 

6.       Be pleasantly optimistic: Pleasantly means in a cheerful manner. It also means in an enjoyable manner. The term optimistic means expecting the best in this best of all possible worlds. It is expecting the best. The word cheerful means being full of or promoting cheer; having or showing good spirits. It is pleasantly (even unrealistically) optimistic.

When you are pleasantly optimistic about your life, you will give no room to pessimistic feelings. Most often, people tend to be more pessimistic about their lives or situations. That is why, they tend to give in, to getting angry with people who disappoint them. When you are pleasantly optimistic, you will not easily give in to getting angry with people who disappoint you.

When you are always optimistic about your life. This helps you to easily dispel getting angry with people who disappoint you. The reason why most people get angry with others who disappoint them is that they are unpleasantly pessimistic.  

7.       Learn not to depend much on people and their promises: Do not expect much from other people. Some of us tend to depend too much on others and their promises. As result of this, in the face of any disappointment, they get easily angry with those who disappoint them. You must learn not to depend much on people and their promises.

Because of the problem of depending too much on others, you quickly get angry with people who disappoint you. To be on the safer side, do not expect much from people. Learn to be yourself and learn not to depend much on other people. This is the only way to deal with the habit of getting angry with people who disappoint you.  

8.       Hard knocks never last; learn to cope or handle hard knocks: Many people have not learnt to cope with adversities. In the face of such adversities, they easily lose the best in them and give in to self-pity. It is good to learn to deal or cope with hard knocks. Everyone experiences hard knocks as everyone is struggling. If you cannot cope with your hard knocks, you will easily give in to uncontrolled anger.

One of the hard knocks of life is disappointment. When you have learn to cope with your hard knocks, you will stop killing or worrying yourself because somebody or some people disappoint you. Life is full of hard knocks. Prepare to face your hard knocks.

When you have not prepared to face or cope or handle hard knocks, you will frequently get angry with people who disappoint you because you fear being disappointed by others. When you have learn to handle your hard knocks, you will not be of afraid of disappointment. After all, hard knocks or tough times never last.    

9.       Have faith in yourself: Having faith in yourself helps you to achieve much. You cannot do certain things without having faith in yourselves. You cannot withstand certain things or pressure, if you do not have faith in yourself. When you have faith in yourself, you can bear certain pains such as disappointment. Because you have faith in yourself, you will never get angry with people who disappoint you.

Your faith helps you to achieve what other people think you cannot achieve. There will always be people who will doubt you for one reason or the other best known to them. But because, you have faith in yourself, you do not allow their doubt to weigh you down.

When people doubt you, it is your turn to prove them wrong by having faith in yourself. Because you have faith in yourself, you will not easily get angry with people who disappoint you.    

10.   Self-acceptance: Self-acceptance is an acceptance yourself as you are, wart and all. Wart is an imperfection in someone or in something. Self-acceptance is key in helping you to face certain challenges of life. When you have accepted yourself the way you are, when you are disappointed by people, you will not be too disturb about it.

And you will learn to deal with such situations. But when you cannot accept yourself the way you are, when people disappoint you will always be unhappy about it and you get angry with them. Self-acceptance helps not to get angry with people who disappoint you. Always learn to accept yourself the way you are. It keeps your mind stable.   

11.   Being angry leads to depression: Anger is depressive. It brings depression. What is depression? Depression is a mental state characterized by a pessimistic sense of inadequacy and a despondent lack of activity. It is sad feelings of gloom and inadequacy. It comes with sadness or unhappiness, demoralization, despondency, helplessness and heartsickness.

When you become depress, you will lose your focus and sense of responsibility to yourself. What you supposed to do, you may end up not doing those things. Being angry with people who disappoint you is not your duty or responsibility but being happy with yourself is your duty or responsibility.

Which is better? I think being happy with yourself is far better than being angry with people who disappoint you.

12.   No one is perfect including you and those who disappoint you: It is a basic fact that no one is perfect including those who disappoint you. If they are not perfect just like you why getting angry with them? It is no longer a surprising thing, if other people choose to disappoint you. It is their choice. They disappoint you because they are not perfect.

If they were perfect, they would not disappoint you. When you have this at the back of your mind, you will never get angry with people who disappoint you. But, if think they are perfect, you will be angry with people every now and then. Because some people are there who will always choose to disappoint you.      

13.   Always see them as people who do not know what they are doing: To find solution to your getting angry, with people who disappoint you, always see them as people who do not know what they are doing. This will save you from lots of stress. With this in mind, you will empower yourself the more to overlook certain things.

There are people who will disappoint you without them knowing they have disappoint you. There are some people who may not see their actions as disappointing to you the way you are seeing it. So, when other people disappoint you, always see them as people who do not know what they are doing. This will help you to stay away from getting angry with people who disappoint you.

14.   People can help you sometimes but cannot fight your battle and fight till the end: When you are always aware that no one can fight your battle for you and even fight till the end, you will not disturb yourself unnecessary with getting angry with others who disappoint you. People can help sometimes with assistances or advices but they do not have the power to fight your battle.

Since, no one can fight your battle, talk more of fighting the battle till the end, why killing yourself getting angry with people who choose to disappoint you. When you already know that they cannot fight your battle for you. At this point who is losing? Is it them or you?

It is not them that is losing, it is you. Because you are wasting your energy that you are supposed to use to fight your battle by getting angry with people who do not even know that they have disappoint you.   

15.   The people that disappoint you have their own reasons for doing so and it is not your business finding out: We often disappoint others because of one reason or the other. These reasons are best known to us. Just the way other people disappoint you that how you disappoint some other people. Some people are wrong but do not want to accept they are wrong. Some people want you to do what you do not want or intended to do.

Some people are not doing the right things but do not want you to criticize them. Some people think that you are not good enough so they cannot believe in you. People will always have doubt about you and so the story goes.

For one reason or the other, people will choose to disappoint you or you will also choose to disappoint others as well. When other people disappoint you, take it that is normal.

16.   The disappointment from other people is indirect and secondary: Disappointments come from two sources. One of the source is from other people while the second source is yourself. The disappointments coming from other people is indirect and secondary. While the disappointments caused by yourself is direct and the primary.

When compare, the disappointments caused by others is very little or tiny or small but the disappointments caused by yourself is huge or large. It is the dominant factor. Let us reflect on the prodigal son once again. You will see that he disappoint himself more compare to the disappointment, he got from his friends. The only disappointments he got from his so called friends was that they were not there for him when he really or actually need their help or assistance

What make him (Prodigal son) to become poorer was not the disappointment from his friends but what he caused by himself. So, if the disappointment caused by other is less important bothering yourself getting angry with people who disappoint you. How often do you get angry with yourself for disappointing yourself too often?

If people choose to disappoint you, do not get angry with them. It is their business. I will never get angry with people who disappoint me because I disappoint myself too often than what other people do.