When Life Puts You in a Tough Situation: 14 Reasons You Should Not Say or Cry ‘Why Me’ or Give in to Self-Pity

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When Life Puts You in a Tough Situation: 14 Reasons You Should Not Say or Cry ‘Why Me’ or Give in to Self-Pity

Life will always put you and others in a tough situations. Everyone is experiencing or facing it. The truth is that no one is a lone in this experiences. Everyone is passing through hell in their lives that you may not know. Do you expect people to be broadcasting their problems before you know they have one problem or the other? Everyone is passing through tough situation, so you are not the only one in it. Even the rich, also experiences tough situations. The question here is how can you fight the situation or cope with the situation. Here are some reasons, when life puts you in a tough situation why you should not say ‘why me’ or give in to self-pity:

1.     Failure or success is a journey and not a destination: One fact about failure is this, ‘failure like success is a journey and not a destination’. Some people think that failure or success is a destination. If this is you view, you are saying that, failure or success is an end in itself. Failure or success is a serious journey. Because, failure or success is not a destination, it often said, that ‘success must be pursue, the more you chase it, the more you will catch it’. This means that, the less you chase success, the less you will catch it’.

When life puts you in a tough situation, do not see failure as a destination but see it as a journey. When you achieve success, do not see it as a destination but see it as a journey. The more you see success as a journey, the more you will be willing to pursue it, because you already know that, the less you chase it, the less you will catch it. 

When you see failure as a destination, you will surely lose your spirit to succeed. And you will have special difficulty in making your dream come through. Once again, when life puts you in a tough situation, instead of crying why me, or giving in to self-pity, always see failure or success as a journey, not a destination.

2.     Failure is a postpone success: For those who are thoughtful, failure is a postpone success. Although, success is a joy and failure is a postpone success. How is failure a postpone success? Failure is a postpone success in the sense that, success arrive much earlier than failure. When you are not lazy, your failure is really a postpone success. The way most people see failure from negative light is what is limiting them from gaining their success.

Failure does not mean you would not achieve success. It means your success is yet to come true. Everyone has his or her time to shine. Your time is quite different from those of others. When life puts you in a tough situation, one reason you should not say why me or give in to self-pity is that, failure is a postpone success. It is working hard and waiting for the outcome to strike.  

3.     Failure is not an end in itself: Many people think that failure is an end in itself. Failure is not an end in itself, it is the beginning of success. Failure is a process, a learning tool. According to the people of old, failure is a high road to success. Without failure, there is no success. It is often said that, life is not about success or failure, it is about knowing who you are.

It is who you are that matters. Failure is a stepping stone to success or a step towards achieving your dream. Learning from failure gives you the chance to make amend on previous poor actions and adopt a better ones in the future. Failure is not just the beginning of success, it is the mother of success. 

When life puts you in a tough situation, always remember that, failure is not an end in itself. It is an exercise of faith, a higher joy to the thoughtful individual, who sees therein merely a postponed and greater success.

4.     Be hopeful and keep doing what you must do and what is required of you: When you have hope, you believe that God is going to reward you if you do what is required of you. Doing what is required of you, is what keeps your hope alive or firm. When you are hopeful, you will always give in the best into your work because, you are expecting the best to come true.

You will keep doing what you must do and what is required of you. Being hopeful is very demanding. It demands your time and your concentrated attention and all of your intelligence and powers of actions or strength. To be hopeful means an ambitious and aspiring young person. It is having or manifesting hope.

When life puts you in a tough situation, instead of giving up on hope, be hopeful and keep doing what you must do and what is required of you. When you give in to self-pity, you will definitely lose your hope. Instead of giving in to self-pity, choose to be strong or powerful by being hopeful. 

5.     Rejection of defeat: The word defeat means an unsuccessful ending to a struggle or contest. It the feeling that accompanies an experience of being thwarted in attaining your goals. Acceptance of defeat weakens one’s mind and focus your mind on the defeat. The more you focus your mind on the defeat, the more you avoid making attempt again. And the more you abandon your depressing duties. Defeat is a state of mind. 

The more you abandon your depressing duties, the more distracted you become. Your acceptance of defeat makes you unable and unfit and not capable to tackle your problems any longer. It makes you to pick the interest quitting the struggle or give up the fight. Acceptance of defeat weakens strength. Defeats can be valuable to you, if you learn from them.

On the other hand, the rejection of defeat makes you strong and able and capable and fit to keep fighting and keep struggling until, you achieve your aim or purpose. The more you reject defeat, the more your strength get strengthen. When life puts you in a difficult or tough situation, instead of saying or crying why me or giving to self-pity, why not try hard to reject defeat. When life puts you in a tough situation, do not accept the defeat. If you accept the defeat, you will touch with your dream.

Ponder or reflect on the following:

(A). Setbacks are stepping stones to a subsequent success.

(B). One or ten thousand defeats – keep going.

(C). Difficulties are opportunities for progression to better things, they are stepping stones to greater experience. – Brian Adams.

(D). If you are going through hell keep going- Winston Churchhill   

6.     Choose to be powerful, not pitiful: Life will always put people in tough situation. In the face of difficult or tough situation, choose to be powerful, not pitiful by believing in yourself. When you give in to self-pity, you will lose your spirit to succeed. You can’t be able to fight or face all you have to face. You will not like to pay the price any longer. Your strength will become weaker and weaker.

Self-pity bring frustration. And is a source of self-distraction. Self-pity is one of the reason why many people have not being able to achieve some of their desires or cherished desires. But when, you choose to be powerful, your strength comes alive because, you truly believe in yourself. You will be able to keep up doing what you should be doing.

When life puts you in a tough situation, choose to be powerful, not pitiful. If you are not powerful, you will not be able to make it to the top or attain your dream or hit the target. 

7.     Focus on possibilities: ‘It is possible; I shall testify’. Testify, ‘I shall see the goodness of God in the land of the living’. In a tough situation, most people tend to focus on impossibilities whether real or fake. But in most cases, the impossibilities are fake. In a tough situation, most of the impossibilities that people tend to focus on are not real, they are created by the self or man.

These impossibilities are called self-made or man-made or fake or false impossibilities. The more people focus on impossibilities, the more they create false impossibilities and the more they see impossibilities. Because those fake impossibilities become real by our attitude. On daily basis people keep increasing the number of impossibilities in their lives.

When life puts you in a tough situation, if you give in to self-pity, you will be seeing many impossibilities in your life. This will affect your destiny negatively. So, when life puts you in a tough situation, instead focus more and more on possibilities and frequently testify, it is possible and that you are going to see the goodness of God. 

8.     Bank on yourself: Bank on yourself is what count or matter. Believe in yourself. Recognize your strength and make it count. Bank on yourself to make it happen. You cannot make anything happen when you cannot bank on yourself. When you give in to self-pity, you start doubting yourself, and by so doing, you will surely lose your spirit to succeed. I think, when life puts you in a difficult or tough situation, instead of doubting yourself and limiting yourself, bank on yourself because, all you need is you.

Your confidence is strong enough to make things turn around for the better. The ability to bank on yourself during tough situation goes a long to change the ugly situation for good. You are what you believe yourself to be. You are as successful as you believe yourself to be. Your confidence in yourself inspire you to keep the hope and stay on course. But you self-pity will drag you down. 

When life puts you in a tough situation, instead of doubting yourself, bank on yourself twenty-four hours a day and seven days a week. Because, what you believe about yourself often come true. If you believe you are a failure, then, you are a failure. Self-pity makes you to think that you are a failure. Instead of giving self-pity the chance to dominate your life, why not bank on yourself.

9.     Trust yourself into overcoming and winning: When you allow self-pity to weigh you down, you will start doubting yourself into losing and defeat, and into mediocrity or second-rated person. It will discourage you from doing what you should be doing. But when you refuse to allow your self-pity to govern you, you will end up trusting yourself into overcoming your difficulties and winning and into excellence.

This trust empower you to bring all of your intelligence and strength into your work. It prepares you to do what you should be doing to gain the victory. When life puts you in a tough situation, learn to keep trusting yourself into overcoming and winning. That is the only way to fight your self-pity and keep you strong. 

10.  Expect the best: Always expect the best at all times. The tough situation in which you find yourself should not deter you from changing your positive expectation. The truth is that people get what they expect to get. Self-pity draws one backward. You keep crying and weeping and complaining and worrying and sorrowing. And at the end of the day, you can’t be able to expect the best. 

Your self-pity will make you to be expecting even the worst. Why is this so? Because, self-pity demoralizes and weakens one’s strength. When life puts you in a tough situation, what are you expecting? The best or the worst? The choice is yours. But I think, you should learn to expect the best. It is what you expect that you will get.

11.  Tough situation does not last: It is often said, that ‘tough times does not last’, and ‘no condition is permanent’. If no condition is permanent, why allowing self-pity to destroy your happiness. Happiness is priceless. It is free. When you are happy and stay happy, you will be able to face all you have to face or go through your problems easily and quickly without procrastination.

Self-pity can make people to indulge in procrastination. The more you give in to self-pity, the more you will give procrastination the chance to dominate your life. Make up your mind to be happy in spite of the tough situation you find yourself.

After all, it is tough people that last. Choose to be tough, not to be weak. When life puts you in a tough situation, do not give in to self-pity but always remember that, tough situation or tough time does not last but tough people do. 

12.  Everyone is experiencing one tough situation or the other, not only you: Everyone is passing through one tough situation or the other in their lives, not only you.  Sometimes, I have found myself in indulging in negative thought about my situation. Thinking as if, I am the only person experiencing this kind of situation or adversity.

But later as get more mature in the way I think, I began to see things differently. Do you know that the rich also cry? So, both the poor and the rich experiences tough situation in their lives. No one is left unaffected by this.

When life puts you in a tough situation, instead of crying why me or giving in to self-pity, know that everyone is experiencing this tough situation or tough time as well and not only you. Self-pity makes people to easily set limits on themselves. When you set limit for yourself, you will not be able get pass the limit. You can do more to succeed.  

13. Tough situation helps you to discover who you are: The question here, is this, when you find yourself in a tough situation, how do you handle it and what picture do you have about yourself? Tough situation helps you to discover who you are. The stuff you are made of is discovered in a tough situation. It is in a tough situation, you will know whether you are tough or soft.

If you are tough, you keep going but if you are soft, you will desist or stop chasing your target. And you would not be able to win the war before you. Tough situation reveals your strength and weakness. 

Tough people do something positive about their weakness and try as much as possible to turn such weakness into strength but soft people do nothing about their weakness. When life puts you in a tough situation, instead of crying why me or giving in to self-pity, always remember that, the situation helps you to discover who you are.

14.  Be faithful and loyal to your dream: The term faithful means any loyal and steadfast following. It is steadfast in affection or allegiance. The word loyal means steadfast in allegiance or duty. It is unwavering in devotion to friend or vow or cause. Steadfast means marked by firm determination or resolution; not shakable. It is firm and dependable especially in loyalty.

When you are not shakable, it is easy for you to cope with your tough situation. When you are faithful and loyal to your dream, no matter what, you will keep following your dream. 

When life puts you in a tough situation and you give in to self-pity, you will not be able to follow your dream and make it come true. So, instead of pitying yourself or crying why me, choose to be faithful and loyal to your dream.

Any time, you find yourself in a tough situation, and you are giving in to self-pity take your time to reflect on this article