16 Things That Show or Confirm That You are Your Own Worst Enemy

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16 Things That Show or Confirm That You are Your Own Worst Enemy

People love doing what they love. And they love what they are doing. People indulge in different activities that gives them comfort and happiness. There are certain things people do which confirm or show that they are their own worst enemy. People become their own enemy when they do the things that brings them down. Below are some things that show that you are your own worst enemy:

1.     Ignoring and forgetting one’s responsibilities/neglect: The word ignore means refuse to acknowledge. It is fail to notice. It is to give little or no attention to. Forget means dismiss from the mind; stop remembering. It is to forget to do something. Neglect means a lack of attention and due care. It is to leave undone or leave out. It is to fail to do something; leave something undone. It is to fail to attend to. It is the trait of neglecting responsibilities and lacking concern. It is to give little or no attention to something. It is the failure to act with the prudence that a reasonable person would exercise under the same circumstances.  

From the meaning of ignore and forget and neglect here, it is very convincing that most people do what they love most times in regard to how they attend to their works or duties either to be serious or unserious. In most cases, ignore or forget or neglect is a strong negative force preventing people from not wanting to inconvenience themselves or trouble themselves or to go the extra-mile to get what they want. 

The attitude of ignoring and forgetting and neglecting one’s duties or responsibilities has made many people to develop poor mentality and weak imagination and wrong attitude and wrong perception towards certain works or duties. Ignoring and forgetting and neglect one’s duties or responsibilities weakens strength and promote negative thinking and wrong confessions.

Most often, most people do not get to fight their battles or wars because they always take pleasure in ignoring and forgetting and neglecting their duties. Neglect makes people happy because, people get some pleasure from neglecting their duties or works. But these pleasures are passing or flitting pleasures or non-durable pleasures.

As much as people gets pleasure from ignoring and forgetting and neglecting their duties or works or responsibilities, it also makes people lives bitter. Because often, ignoring and forgetting and neglect of duties or responsibilities leads to poverty. Most people who often neglect their duties, often remain stagnant, they get poorer. If neglect leads to poverty or make people poorer, it shows that, those who neglect their duties or ignore or forget their responsibilities are often their own enemy.

2.     Escape or evasion or dodging: The word escape means, an inclination to retreat from unpleasant realities through diversion or fantasy. It is to fail to experience. It is nonperformance of something distasteful that you are supposed to do.  Mark Nepo stated that, “Joy is the transformation of our suffering, not the escape of all we have to face. Escape will prevent and hinder you from gaining your cherished desire or the object in view. 

To transform your suffering into joy or blessing, you will need to face all you have to face. Some people can be hard working doing certain less important things but in facing the important thing, the same people can become lazy. Why, because, most people do not like distasteful or unpleasant works or duties. In facing such unpleasant things, escape or evasion or dodging is the best option for most people.

The more people try to escape or dodge distasteful duties or works, the more they find it hard to achieve their dreams. If escape or evasion or dodging can make you not to be able to achieve your dreams, it shows that escaping or dodging your responsibilities makes you, your own worst enemy.

3.     Self-made impossibilities: False impossibilities are self-made impossibilities or man-made impossibilities. They are not natural impossibilities. In the world only few things are really or actually impossible to man. These real impossibilities can only be solve by God. But the false or self-made impossibilities are not real impossibilities. They are created out of poor imagination and poor thought and poor confessions of people. 

When these false impossibilities are created by faulty or poor imagination and poor thought and poor confessions, they become additional challenges for the individual who imagine and think and confess such impossibilities. When the individual accept such impossibilities, by his or her attitude, such impossibilities become real impossibilities to that person. On daily basis, people keep increasing the number of impossibilities in their lives.

The acceptance of false impossibilities or self-made impossibilities often weakens one’s strength. When you succeed in creating self-made or false impossibilities around your works or duties and then you accept such impossibilities by your attitude, these fake impossibilities begin to discourage and distracting you from what you are supposed to do and must do. If self-made impossibilities makes you lose your strength and focus and then, discourage and distract you from doing what you are supposed to be doing, it shows that, your self-made impossibilities makes you, your own worst enemy.

4.     Pretense / pretension: Pretense is the act of giving a false appearance. It is pretending with intension to deceive. Pretension is the quality of being pretentious (behaving or speaking in such a manner as to create a false appearance of great importance or worth). The act of pretending to be who you are not is making many people to keep faking their lifestyles. And the cost of this habit is that, you will end up spending more than usual or necessary. 

You will also tend to spend your little money in an extravagant ways. You will be trying to please people by indulging in careless and unplanned spending of money like indulging in impulses. Pretending to be who you are not will not make you the person. What can make you just like that person is your constant diligence and persistent determination to succeed.

Pretending to be who you are not takes more money out of your pocket for just to create false impression which often leads to stagnation. If pretense or pretension can leads to stagnation due to careless and extravagant and unplanned spending of your money, it shows that you who is indulging in pretense or pretension you are your own worst enemy.

5.     Lack of paying proper and concentrated and persistent attention to a task: The habit of not paying proper and concentrated and persistent attention to a task often mar people progress and jeopardize their success. This habit often make people to sometimes ignore or forget about their responsibilities. Many people end up not doing their work well or properly because improper and lack of concentrated and persistent attention. 

It weakens one’s power or strength. And often make one lose focus of what he or she wants to achieve. It can also make you to become lazy. If the lack of paying proper and concentrated and persistent attention to your works or duties or responsibilities can thwart your progress and success; and weakens your power and make you to lose focus of what you want to achieve and can further, make you to become lazy, it then shows that not paying proper and concentrated and persistent attention to a task, makes you, your own worst enemy.

6.     Negative thinking: Negative thought and thinking of people is hindering them, from making the right choices. When your thoughts and thinking, is negative your actions tends to be negative as well. People’s thoughts and thinking often determine their actions. Your thought and thinking can make what is good to be seen as bad and what is bad to be seen as good. The negative thought and thinking of people is intimidating them from doing the things they should do and are capable of doing. Because negative thoughts and thinking creates fear in people. 

Most people do not often think deeply before making their decisions. Negative thought process can block your chances of gaining the throne or the crown. Most people are not willing to pay the price because of their negative thoughts and thinking. The actions of people confirm their thoughts and what they are thinking about. If people dislike the works at the level of their dreams, it is because, they are govern by their negative thoughts and thinking. Our negative thought and thinking gives power to things and thus, become a source of intimidation to us. 

The negative thought of people is making them not to like the works at the level of their dreams and prevents them from doing what they are supposed and should do. It weakens the strength of people. Your negative thought will always prevent you from achieving your dreams.

Your negative thought and thinking is one thing that is stopping you from fighting your deepest fear. If your negative thought can block your chances of gaining the throne or the crown, and makes you unwilling to pay the price and intimidates you to stop chasing your dreams, and makes you not to like the works at the level of your dreams and prevent you from doing the things you are supposed to be doing, it indicates that, you are your own worst enemy.

7.     Wrong confessions: Weak or poor confession is a communication that makes you afraid to try something. It is an intimidation that tend to limit you from trying something. The negative confession of people is intimidating them from doing what they are supposed to do. On daily basis, people confess negatively than positively. When your confession is a negative and weak and poor one, it will affect your actions negatively and thus, weakens your strength. 

Nobody can go or do above his or her confessions. The more people engage in negative and weak and poor confession, the more they avoid their works. And the more they complain. Negative and weak and poor confession is making, people to perform below their capabilities and abilities. It makes people not to have interest in doing certain things or somethings.

The negative and weak and poor confessions of people make them to become lazy in taking actions to solve their problems. Negative and weak and poor confessions are source of distraction. They distract you or people from what they are supposed to do and should do and must do. And make them to pick interest in doing what they are not supposed to do and must not do. Your positive and strong and powerful confessions keeps you focus and strong. And help you to increase your power of actions or strength.

Negative and weak and poor confessions of people is intimidating them and thus, weakening their strength on daily basis. It makes people lazy. 

Nothing can stop you but you. You will not be able and capable and fit to do what you must do and should do when you have given in to intimidation coming from you or out of you through your poor confession. When you have confess negatively and poor about it (your duty or work or task or responsibility), you will not do it, because you are intimidated by it. if your negative confessions are hindrances’ to your success, it shows or indicates that you are your own worst enemy.  

8.     Doing everything but what you are supposed to do: Most times, there is this leaning in most people of great goodwill to do everything but what they are supposed to do. This means that, people do more of the less or lesser important things than little or non-of the important things. When you are doing more of what you are not supposed to do and little or non-of what you are supposed to do, you will end up thwarting your success. 

No matter how hard one works, if what he or she is doing is not what he or she supposed to do or should do, what the person is actually expecting will change or be alter because of the failure to do what one really should do. Doing everything but what you are supposed to do is a huge distraction on one’s path. If what you are doing is not what you should actually be doing to achieve your success, it then shows that, you are your own worst enemy.

9.     Wandering all over the field instead of standing at the work assigned to you: The word wandering means, having no fixed course. The term course is a connected series of events or actions or developments. There is this leaning in most people of great goodwill to wander all over the field instead of standing by the task or duty assigned to them.

When you are wandering aimlessly, without knowing what exactly you are to do at a particular time or the other or you are unsure of what is expected of you to do to gain your success, you will eventually lose focus of what you really want to achieve.

Having no fixed course of action is a distraction from what you are supposed to do and should do and must do. To achieve one’s dreams faster, one need to have a fixed course of what is expected of required of him or her. If wandering about aimlessly, will make you to lose focus of what you really want to achieve, and is a source of distraction from what you are supposed to do and should and must do, it shows that, you are your own worst enemy.

10.  Lack of loyalty to your plan of action for success: Loyalty is the quality of being loyal. It is the feelings of allegiance. It is act of binding yourself (intellectually or emotionally) to a course of action. No matter how one prayed for what he or she wants, if he or she is not loyal to a course of action, he or she is really wasting his or her time.

When you are not loyal to a course of action, you will be causing unnecessary delay in your quest to attain your goal or purpose. Lack of loyalty to your plan of action for success is planning to fail. People seldom achieve their desire or cherished desire when there is lack of loyalty to what they are to do or must do.

If lack of loyalty to a plan of action or course of action will bring unnecessary and unwanted delays in one’s progress or quest to attain a goal or purpose and it is more of a planning to fail, it shows that you are your own worst enemy. 

11.  Indiscipline: Indiscipline is the trait of lacking discipline. Discipline is training to improve strength or self- control. It is the trait of being well behaved. It is a system of rules of conduct or method of practice. It is subjection to rule; submissiveness to order and control; it is the habit of obedience. Self-discipline is the trait of practicing self-discipline. Self-discipline is the act of denying yourself; controlling your impulses. 

When you are discipline, you will learn to obey certain rule of conduct of what to do and not to do.  The inability to follow rule of conduct is affecting people lives negatively. Success require that you obey the rules. Most people love to disobey the rules for achieving their success or victory or making their dreams to come through. When you are discipline, your self-discipline will help you to be able to follow or obey the rules for achieving your winnings or victories or successes.

You will also be able to deal with or control your impulses or urges. Lack of discipline is making people to indulge in self-gratification and are unable to learn to postpone their gratification in favor of the long term profit. In order to be able to postpone your immediate gratification to receive a bigger and better reward or gain in the future, you need discipline or self-discipline. If indiscipline will make you to lose a bigger reward in the future, it shows that your indiscipline makes you your own worst enemy.

12.  Lack of sacrifice: Sacrifice is the willingness to feel the pain to get the gain. Most people are not willing, to feel the pain. Because they are not ready to feel the pain.  They are not willing to make the sacrifice. The pain is the sacrifice. When you are not willing to make sacrifice, it will negatively affect your power to act or your strength. 

The pain comes before the gain. When you are always ready to feel the gain, but not ready to feel the pain, it means that, you are not yet ready to feel the gain. The lack of sacrifice often limit people in given their full strength into their works.

It is often said that to achieve success, one need to bring into his or her work, simple or difficult the best he or she supposed to give and should give and must give. Basically, you must sacrifice something to get or gain something. Sacrifice, bring out your best. It strengthens your strength.

If your lack of sacrifice will make you not to be able to bring out your best into your work and often, weakens your strength, and prevent you from given your full or complete strength into your work, it shows that, your lack of sacrifice makes you your own worst enemy. 

13.  Failure to love the things that you are supposed to do: There are things people love doing. And there are things people do not love doing. Some of the things people love doing are negative things and some are less important things. While some others may be okay. Some of the things people do not love doing may be actually bad or negative while some others may be the most important things people are supposed to do and should do. 

The most important things are the things you are supposed to do and should do and must do. When you do not love the things you are supposed to do, you will be ignoring or forgetting or avoiding them. And the more you are avoiding these things you are supposed to do and should do, the more you will never get to do them and the more your dreams tend not to be achieve by you.

If the failure to love the things that you are supposed to do and should do will lead to escape or neglect of responsibilities and subsequently hinders you from achieving your dream, it means that, the failure to love the things that you are supposed to do, makes you your own worst enemy.

14.  Lack of courage in doing what you are supposed to do: The term courage means, a quality of spirit that enables you to face danger or pain without showing fear. A popular success principle says, ‘no pain, no gain.’ Another says, ‘pay the price.’ Another says, ‘prepared, if beaten, to return a thousand time to most depressing or disagreeable duty.’ Success often go with pain. To get the success, you must face or bear the pain.  

Many of the duties or responsibilities we shall face or meet are difficult or depressing or disagreeable or distasteful. Avoiding them would not help you either. You just need to make up, your mind to do them. Our duties or responsibilities are something we cannot run away from no matter how depressing or difficult or distasteful they may be. In most cases, majority of people often give in to complain and eventually desist or give up on those duties just because, they are difficult or depressing or distasteful.

Courage is needed to face and tackle this type of duties or responsibilities. A lack of courage is making many people to desist from their responsibilities. The more you desist from your responsibilities, the more your responsibilities will be undone.  But having courage goes a long way in helping you to deal with or tackle what is difficult and challenging.

Your courage makes you to be willing to bear the pain, pay the price and to return a thousand times, if beaten, to the most depressing duty. So, having courage contribute in making your life just to keep getting better and better by making your dreams come through. If your lack of courage will make you not to be willing to pay the price and not to be able to face all you have to face, and prevent your dreams from coming through, it shows that, your lack of courage in doing what you are supposed to do, makes you your own worst enemy.

15.  You are not interested in laboring for the things you have prayed for: Many people are not interested in laboring for what they have prayed for. Prayer is one part of the whole work of making your dream come through. Most people after praying for what they want, they fold their hands for God to do the works for them. God cannot do the works for you. God also count on you to do what you are expected or required to do. 

If you are not interested to labor for the things you have prayed for, it means you are not expecting to gain them. The reason some people are not interested in laboring for what they have prayed for is that they think the prayer alone is enough or they believe that favor is better than labor.

If the lack of interest in laboring for the things you prayed for, will make you to lose the things you have prayed for, it shows that you are your own worst enemy.

16.  Your power of actions do not always equal your cherished desires or highest purposes or dreams: The normal thing to be to make one’s dreams come through is to do the actions or works that equals or matches your dreams. How will your dreams come through when your actions or works are falling below your dreams? 

Problems often arises when your actions or works are below standard of what your dreams requires to make them come through. If your actions or works are not the important ones or the actions fall below what is or are required, they delay your progress. Or the actions will block you from gain your dreams. 

The truth is that, it is very difficult to achieve one’s dreams when his or her actions or works are not always equal to his or her dreams. If your power of actions is below your dreams, and can hamper your success in achieving your dreams, it shows that your power of actions not equaling to your dreams makes you your own worst enemy.

If you are your own worst enemy by your choice, you can as well be your own best friend by the opposite of the above discuss factors. The things that make you to be your own worst enemy can be turn to make you your own best friend