22 Different Ways People Disappoint or Betray Themselves Daily: Part 1

 

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22 Different Ways People Disappoint or Betray Themselves Daily: Part 1 

On daily basis people do things they think is the best for them. They act based on certain conviction, they have made their mind on. There are many things that people love doing and they spend their time on those things. Everyone choose who and what he or she wants to be. The question here is that, who and what that people want to be are they right? The daily actions of people speak volume in their lives. The effects of the daily actions of people speak louder about who and what they want to be. Seldom, do most people know that their actions are not what should be. People choose to live their lives the way they want but unfortunately, they are wrong in their choices. Most often, our attention is quickly drawn to the disappointment caused by other people but seldom, do we know that we are frequently disappointing ourselves as well. We often tend not mind, but the disappointment that is caused by ourselves hurt the most. This article or write up seek to know the different ways people disappoint or betray or let down or frustrate themselves by their actions. The word disappoint means to fail to meet the hopes or expectations of. People have their hopes and expectations they could not meet up with because of the wrong actions they indulged in. Most people tend to disappoint themselves more than what other people do to them. Below are ways most people disappoint themselves on daily basis or occasions:

1.       Gratification/self-gratification: Self-gratification is the act of satisfying your own desires and giving yourself pleasure. Gratification is the act of gratifying or pleasing, either the mind, the taste, or the appetite; as, the gratification of the palate, of the appetites, of the senses, of the desire, of the heart.

Self-gratification is preventing many people from reaching the top or their target. People prefer to gratify their desires without restraints. They cannot discipline themselves to learn to postpone their gratification in favor of durable gain or long-term profit.

Gratifying yourself or oneself with urgent or temporary pleasure, is one of the way most people choose to betray themselves or not to shine on daily basis.

2.     Feasting on debt: Feasting is eating an elaborate meal (often accompanied by entertainment). Debt is the state of owing something (especially money). It is money or goods or services owed by one person to another. Feasting on debt is another way some people choose to disappoint or betray themselves.

 Feast is meant for anyone who has money at his disposal. He or she has the money on hand. But when you do not have the money on hand and you want to indulge in feasting, is really a foolish thing to do. It is not advisable to borrow money for feasting either. If you must indulge in feasting, have the money at hand.

But there are situations where some foolish persons will be feasting on debt. And their debt keep piling or increasing without care. When money eventually come to their hands, the first thing they will be doing is to be struggling to pay their debt. Feasting on debt discourages saving and investment. 

3.       They chase after their illusions: The word illusion is an erroneous mental representation. It is something many people believe that is false. It is act of deluding; deception by creating illusory ideas. Going by the meaning of the word illusion, most people are acting based on wrong mentality or mindset.

What is believed to be wrong and which is actually wrong is taking to be right by some people. When you are acting based on wrong mental representation, your mind will be focus on that erroneous misrepresentation you are thinking it is the correct thing.

All your energy will be channel into chasing it. When you are chasing after your illusion, you will never have enough time to do any other real beneficial things. People disappoint or betray themselves when they waste their time going after their illusions. And these people do daily.   

4.       Taking pleasure in great luxury/big spenders/prodigious in spending: most people love to take pleasure in great luxury without care. They love spending big to create unnecessary or false impression about themselves. This is what the prodigal son did when he was having reasonable money or in wealth.

He love spending big just to impress his fake friends but at the end of the day, he carelessly wasted all of his wealth without planning for his future. When he later realized his mistakes, he pitied and blame himself for that stupid lifestyle he lived.

Taking pleasure in great luxury or spending big without care is one of the way most people disappoint themselves. Just imagine spending big without having an investment. What do you think will happen to your money? You will surely or certainly or definitely waste it. 

5.       Excessive love for wine and perfume: The word excessive means characterized by, or exhibiting, excess; overmuch.  The word excess is immoderation as a consequence of going beyond sufficient or permitted limits. Excessive is beyond normal limits. It is often said, that the things we love the most kill us the most. This is true.

Excessive love for wine and perfume is one of the challenges many people are facing today. They find it hard to overcome this problem because it has become their habit. Habit is very difficult to eliminate easily.

Excessive love for wine and perfume is taken people hard earn money from their pockets. It has led many people to spend their money without earning it. This habit is in conflict with this success anthem, ‘Do not spend your money until you have earned it’. Many people in our society are poor because they cannot control their excess intake of wine or alcohol and excessive use of perfume.   

6.       They act hastily or rashly: Acting in hasty manner without prudence or discernment or thoughtfulness is another problem many people are going through in their daily lives. People love doing things without thinking deeply or properly before taken their decisions. By so doing, many people keep doing what they are not supposed to doing.

The act of taken decisions without thoughtfulness or prudence has led and is still leading many people to make wrong choices day in day out. Many people are living in poverty because, they are acting in hasty or rash manner without given serious consideration on what they are about doing or going into.

Many people are seeing acting with care as a waste of time. So they rush into taken quick and unprofitable decisions. Many people have met their untimely death because of hasty decisions.

One thing that affected the prodigal son was this issue of acting in hasty or rashly manner and without carefulness and thoughtfulness. The more people act hastily or rashly, the more they tend to fail. For instance, the prodigal son became poor as a result of acting rashly and without care and moderation.    

7.       They prioritize their pleasure over their duty: Most people often disappoint themselves by setting or getting wrong priority scale for themselves. They put the last thing first and put the first thing last. When your priority scale is wrong, you end up doing the last thing first and the first thing last.

In short, most people spend most of their time chasing the less important things or the last things at the expense of the important or much important things or the first things. When your priority scale is wrong, what you are doing will have a negative effect on your cherished purpose.

The more you chase the last thing, the less you gain the first thing. The important thing is the first thing while the less important thing is the last thing. When you find it hard to follow the success anthem that says, duty first and pleasure thereafter, you will never experience the durable pleasure. People tend to forget that pleasure is sustain by duty or labor.

8.       They do not give in their best into their works: Your work requires the best to be done properly. You give in the best to get the best. People do not like to work that hard. They do not like to labor for the things they prayed for. They are interested only in feeling the gains. The gains and not the pains is their major concern.

When you are only interested in feeling the gains, you will not want to put in your best effort. Most people do not want to work that hard. So, they think of the little they can give to gain the object in view. The more people think of the little they can give to gain the object in view, the more they fail to put or give in the best into their works.

The reason why people do not get what they want is because, they often do not like to give in the best of their effort into their works. 

9.       They indulge in self-defeating activities: As much as people love to succeed or achieve their dreams. They are fond of doing things that are contrary to or conflicting with the achievement of such dreams.  Every actions or activities which are conflicting with what you want to achieve are referred to self-defeating activities.

In most cases, people do self-defeating activities more than the actual activities they ought or should do. When your actions or activities tend to pull you backward than forward, you are really indulging in self-defeating activities. Most people do not get to achieve their dreams because what they do is not what they should do.     

10.   They are frequently governed by their corrupt passions: Another way most people betrayed themselves is that, they are governed by their corrupt desires. Most people love chasing their corrupt desires more than their positive desires. They have turned their corrupt desires to their major desires. Their corrupt desires are their only desires.

Their cherished desires are intended to be achieved using the corrupt means. When you are governed by your corrupt passions or desires, you will do everything possible to achieve your corrupt desires. The prodigal son failed because he was governed by his corrupt passions.

11.   They have difficulties separating the important things from the less: The truth is that people find it hard to separate what is important from the less important things. For most people, the important things are the same with the less important things. The less important things are things which will not help you in achieving your dreams.

They may look alike with the important things. The important things are the things which help in making your dreams come true or come through. Most people betrayed themselves on daily basis, when they cannot separate the less important things from the important things.

To succeed, you need to be able to filter the things you are doing, because all of them will not take you to the top or make your dreams come true.