11 Reasons You Should Stop Loosing or Hurting Your Peace Just For Others to Have Theirs

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11 Reasons You Should Stop Loosing or Hurting Your Peace Just For Others to Have Theirs

Sometimes, because you want to make peace with people or because you want others to have their peace, some people may abuse the situation. As much as you want other people to have their peace, do they in turn want you to have your peace? There are situations where, you are trying to please some people but the people you are trying to please are not doing anything to please you as well. You want their peace but they do not want your peace. How do you strike your balance? You need to strike a balance here. Below are some reasons you should stop loosing hurting your peace just for others to have theirs:

1.     Losing your peace causes or leads to depression: The truth is that losing your peace now and then is not good for your health. It causes depression. Depression is a mental state characterized by a pessimistic sense of inadequacy and a despondent lack of activity. It is sad feelings of gloom and inadequacy. It comes with sadness or unhappiness, demoralization, despondency, helplessness and heartsickness. 

      When you become depress, you will lose your focus and sense of responsibility to yourself. What you supposed to do, you may end up not doing those things. The more depress you become, because of you losing your peace just for others to have their peace, the more helpless you tend to become. 

Instead of being sad as a result of losing your peace, why not choose to be happy by not allowing others to mess up your peace with their stupidity. If losing my peace will lead me into depression, it is better I gain back my peace to prevent me going into depression. Depression increases one’s stress level.

The more depress you become, the more you stress level increases. You can do well to stop increasing your stress by having your peace back. When you give them the chance to always have their way, they will keep abusing it. To gain your peace, do not allow them to always have their way.

2.      Instead of having around you people that cause you more pain, it is better to be alone: The truth is that, it is better to be alone than to be friend people who will cause more pains than joy in your life. Some people, when they come into your life, they are only there to find a way to break your heart and scatter your dreams.

They will not make any meaningful impact. It is only what they will gain that matters to them. What is the gain of having people who will cause more pains or harms to you as friends? Is it not better, you are alone not having anyone as friend. Having friends who are good is great but having friends who can cause your fall or cause you harms or pains is a great tragedy. 

To be on the safer side, it is better to stay alone than to have people around you who will cause you more pains than gains.      

3.      People tend to be selfish: Most people are always full of themselves. They are only bothered about what concern them. Selfish people do not care about others; they prefer to eat alone than to share with others. They love to keep it all to themselves when it is all good. When you are losing your peace for others to have theirs, and they cannot lose their peace for you to have yours. 

It is better to be selfish sometimes by caring and loving yourself the more. No matter what you do to selfish people, they will not be satisfy about it. They can go to the extent of planning your downfall. If you are dealing with selfish people, be selfish as well by not giving them the chance to have their peace.

If you are dealing with people, study them to know whether they are selfish or not. This will help you to know how to deal with them. If they are selfish, treat them as such.

4.      Some people are not considerate of another’s feeling: Do you need to be considerate about the feeling of people who are not considerate about your own feelings? Being considerate about other people feeling is a great virtue. But when it comes to a situation where you are considerate about the feeling of people who are not considerate about your own feeling. 

You cannot keep being considerate about other people’s feeling when they are finding it difficult to be considerate about your own feelings. If you are doing something that is good to some people, and the same people cannot reciprocate, it is better you stop bothering yourself about them.

You cannot keep losing your peace for those who are not considerate about your feelings to keep having their peace. Let them experience what it means to be losing their own peace as well.   

5.      They love taking your calmness for granted: There are people who love to take the calmness of other people for granted. They do whatsoever they like because you are calm or gentle. If you are calm for other people to have their peace and they do not want to appreciate this calmness of yours.  

You want their peace but they do not want your own peace. You prefer to make things easy for them while they love making things hard for you. Learn to withdraw your calmness or gentleness when it matters. It is not all the time you allow people to make you lose your peace.

Stop allowing other people to take your gentleness for granted. When they cannot allow you to have your peace, do not allow them to have theirs either.

6.     You do not need other people approval to have your peace: Do you need the approval of other people to have your peace? I do not think so. If you are waiting for approval of people in order to have your peace, you will be losing your peace. To have your peace, you do not need anybody approval. 

Since, the people you are seeking their approval to have your peace, do seek your own approval. Why wasting your time trying to get or seek their approval also. If other people are having their peace without seeking your approval why seeking theirs as well. Most people do their things without your approval, why killing yourself to get their approval before you can do your own things and shine.

Seeking their approval before you can shine is a stumbling block to your progress. The more you are seeking their approval before you can have your peace, the more you will be losing your peace. Who will like to give you his or her approval to shine when he or she is yet to shine? It will be very difficult to get one. 

7.     Your happiness does not depend on other people, presence and their expectation of you: There are people who will come into your life but will not make any much impact on you. They cause you more pains than gains. Their presence, sometimes, cause you more trouble than you bargain for. Instead of them to give you happiness when they are around you, they give you more sadness.

The truth is that, your happiness does not depend on other people presence around.  You can make yourself happy without them. Instead of losing your peace with their presence, it is better you are alone and have your peace. Your happiness does not depend on people expectation of you. Sometimes, their expectations may even be negative or demeaning. 

People expectation has nothing to do with your happiness. You cannot force people to have high expectation of you. The way they see you whether positive or negative has nothing to do with your happiness. Do not depend on people for your happiness, you would not get it from them. Instead of waiting on people for your happiness, create your happiness.

8.     Learn to like or love yourself: We sometimes get busy trying to like others thinking they will like us in return but unfortunately, you are just wasting your time. The people you are busy loving are busy loving others as well. By keeping loving them, will make you to be losing your peace. 

Instead of liking or loving people who do not love you in return, it is better to channel the energy towards liking yourself. The more you like yourself, the more you will be gaining your peace. Until you learn to like yourself, you will always lose your peace. Rather than loving people who do love you in return, it is better to stay alone and like yourself.

9.     Learn to think well of yourself: Sometimes, some people keep thinking other people are better than them. So, they learn to depend on other people, they hold so. The more they think like this, the more uncomfortable they tend to become when those people are not there to solve problems for them 

In the absence of those people they considered better than them, they tend to lose their peace. Instead of thinking well of others, why not start learning to think well of yourself. This will boost your self-confidence.

The more you start learning to think well of yourself, the more you gain your peace. Instead of keep losing one peace or your peace, is it not better to be gaining your peace by thinking well of yourself.

10.  Sometimes, it is what gives you pain that gives others joy: There are people who find it hard to share in other people’s pains. They derive joy when you share their pains. But they are not interested in sharing your own pains. You keep losing your peace for them to have theirs by sharing in their pains. 

Since, they cannot share in your pains because they do not want to lose their peace, why do you keep on losing your peace sharing their pains. The truth is that everyone has pains. It is only those who care that can share in your pains.

What gives you pains, give others joy. It is better to stop sharing in the pains of people who seems not to care when you are in pains. It is better to gain your peace than losing it on those who care not about your pains.

11. Happiness does not cost a dime and is not in the possession of anyone: Some people have problem in making others happy. No matter what you do to them, they cannot make you happy. Why wasting your time on those who cannot make others happy. The more you waste your time, the more you lose your peace.

Happiness is an internal thing not external. Your happiness is not in the possession of anyone. It is not in their hands and it cost no dime. It is free. You do not need to wait on people to make you happy. Instead of counting on other people to make you happy, why not take your life in your hands to make yourself happy. 

Since, happiness cost no dime, why waiting on people to sell happiness to you when they feel like selling when you can have as much happiness as you want without other people contributing to it. It is better to have your peace and be happy than to be losing your peace and you are not happy.   

Each time, you are losing your peace for others to have theirs and they cannot allow you to have your own peace, it is better you stop losing your peace just for them to have theirs. It is not a crime to love yourself the way you should love yourself.