When Despair Manipulates You: 16 Things That Will Glitter in Your Life

 

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 When Despair Manipulates You: 16 Things That Will Glitter in Your Life

As we struggle to make ends meet, we are often faced with different challenges and problems that tend to overcome or overshadow or overwhelm us when we allow despair to manipulate our mind and heart. We either fight or flee depending on one’s state or condition of the mind. When your state of mind is positive you fight the challenges and problems but when your condition of the mind is negative you will flee. Despair is the feeling that everything is wrong and nothing will turn out well. It is abandon hope’ give up hope; lose heart. It loss of hope; utter hopelessness; complete despondency. It is despond, lose all hope, give up all expectation, and be without any hope. We give so much power to despair and allow it to manipulate and influences us thereby affecting our actions negatively. When despair manipulate you, the following things will be glittering in your life:

1.     1. You will stop believing in yourself and in your dreams: Believing is a choice that people must make as it concern their lives. It is your choice to belief in yourself or to doubt yourself. You are what you choose to be. It is what you choose that you will become or it is what you sow or plant that you will reap or harvest. There is two ways about this. When you are doing the thing that you should be doing and the result or outcome takes longer time to happen or shine and you allow despair to creep in and manipulate and influences you, the consequence is that you will stop believing in yourself. When you stop believing in yourself, you will stop believing in your dreams. The end result is that you stop doing the things that you should be doing. Thereby pulling yourself backward. Remember, you are who you choose to be.

2.     2. You will no longer be able to use all your strength in your work: It is the call of our heart to bring into our works all of our strength or to go to the end of our strength before complaining. Obstacles will always be there on the way to success. As you struggle with these obstacles, our great intention is to overcome these obstacles but the truth is that it will not be easy to do so. It is at this point that despair pumps its ugly face. The power to place despair where it belong is in your hands. When you allow despair to gain victory over you or manipulate and influences you, you will no longer be able to use or bring all your strength into your works.

3.     3. You will lose focus on your dream and what you are supposed to be doing: Follow your dreams, they know the way is one anthem of success. The truth here is that only your dreams know the way or the right way. Your other desires do not know the way. As you follow your dreams, you will need to keep following without getting tired of doing so. It is at this point of keep following your dreams that despair show up. When despair show up is always your choice to accept or reject it big time. But when you are unable to reject it that is, you accept it. You have given it the power to manipulate and influences you. Thus, by accepting the influences of despair, you tend to lose your focus on your dreams and what you are supposed to be doing so easily.

4.     4. Your fear keep increasing: Fear is an enemy of progress. Despair is always the friend of doubt. They move together. As we struggle to achieve our cherished goals, despair often show up. This despair turn to become additional obstacle or problem you must overcome. If you cannot overcome it or you are unable to tackle it, despair will start manipulating and influencing your actions and you will start doubting yourself. The more despair manipulate and influences you, the more you will doubt yourself and the more your fear will keep increasing. People fear their dreams because they allow despair to manipulate and influences them.

5.     5. You will always give in to pessimistic tendencies: The term pessimistic means expecting the worst in this worst of all possible worlds. Being pessimistic is to be without hope. It is your choice to be pessimistic or to be optimistic. When hope governs you, you will always be optimistic about life. Despair and doubt always goes together. Where you found one you see the other. When despair rules you or influences and manipulate you, you will begin to doubt yourself and your dreams. And the more you doubt, the more pessimistic you become.

This have a negative effects on your actions. You may stop doing the things that you are supposed to be doing or you will not be doing your works or duties well because you are not expecting any major gains. What you are expecting as a pessimistic person is the worst to happen. Pessimistic people are myopic in their judgement and expectations. This forces them out of the game.

6.     6. You will back the risk instead of fighting hard: What is the risk? The risk is all the things that you should be doing and must do without complaining. The works to be done or the duties to be performed or the responsibilities to be carryout simple or difficult or depressing or distasteful are all part of the risk. They are the problems that must be dealt with. When despair manipulate and influences you, you will prefer to go round the risk or back the risk instead of facing the risk or going through the risk or problems. This is one of the reason why some people tend to ignore and forget their duties or responsibilities or neglect their duties or fail to perform their works.

7.     7. You will accept fake or false or man-made impossibilities: Impossibilities are real but some of them are man-made or false impossibilities. The false impossibilities become real because by our attitude, we accept them as impossibilities and they become impossibilities to those who accepted them.  When despair get the better part of you, it will manipulate and influences you to create false impossibilities by your defective imagination and to accept those false impossibilities as real impossibilities by you soft or weak or poor attitude. Despair give rooms for  what is not real to be seen as real, for what is bad to be seen as good, for what is negative to be seen as positive verse-visa.        

8.     8. You will no longer be able to give complete attention to your tasks or works: Giving proper concentrated attention to a task is the function of faith. Divided attention is a function of doubt as well as despair. When you forsake your responsibilities for a less important thing, you are manifesting your despair. Instead of using your time chasing the more useful things, you will be busy chasing the lesser things. You cannot achieve your dreams when there is no proper attention to your works. Despair forces you to look at the dark side of things. It distracts you from giving your full or complete attention to what you should be doing.  It make you to become inactive, weak, and poor. Attending to your work is your war or battle or your hurdle. To finish the race, faith and hope pushes you ahead while despair and doubt pulls you backward.  

9.     9. You will always desist when other people are persisting: Desisting show case your doubt and despair while persisting show your faith. Desisting is a distraction. But persisting is focus. In the course of doing your depressing or distasteful work, desisting draws you back while persisting pushes you to the front. Most often, people desist when they meet unpleasant duty or work and persist chasing their corrupt desires or less important things. When despair wins you, you will desist chasing your dreams. Nothing can stop you except you yourself. That is, your despair and doubt. They make you to withdraw or desist from doing the things you should do. While other people are persisting in doing their works and taking responsibilities.

10. 10. You will retreat and surrender: Most people whose determination are strong enough, whose passions are strong enough, whose interest are very strong do not easily give in to retreat and to surrender no matter what happen on the way. They are willing to be at pain or take pains, inconvenient or bother or extend or kill themselves to get to the throne. They do not buy the idea of no retreat, no surrender. It is not inside their dictionary.

But for those whose determination are not strong enough or passions are not strong or good enough, and whose interest are weak do easily give in to retreat and to surrender. In the face of despair or when people are manipulated and influenced by despair, it very easy to lose interest in your highest purpose or in the task to be performed or to retreat and surrender. 

11. 11. Self-pity or shame: The word pity means an unfortunate development. It is a reason or cause of pity, grief, or regret; a thing to be regretted. What can be the cause of pity? Pity can be cause by different things. One of such thing is the failure to do the things that you should be doing or should do. Another is the failure to do the right things at the right times. There are other issues of ignoring and forgetting your responsibilities, neglect, evasion or dodging of duties, procrastinating, failure to do the right thing well or in the proper manner and doing the things that you are not supposed to be doing at a particular point in time.

We also have the problem of not bringing all of your intelligence and strength into your work, failure to give in the best into every of your work simple or difficult and the inability to give proper and adequate and complete and concentrated attention to a task or duty or work. These above mention factors often come with despair.

When these things happen, the outcomes or results or consequences are piled up and come with regret or pity or shame, thus, leading to despair. And when despair manipulate and cripple and influences you, what you will be experiencing is self-pity or shame. In spite of the mistake made in the past, you can tell yourself that it is possible to start over again and do things rightly.

12. 12. You will stop putting joy into your work: putting joy into your work is a quality of faith and hope. When you learn to put joy into your work, the work tend to become easier to do and more interesting and more enjoyable. You may not even like the work but because the work is a very vital and necessary one, you just have to do it. You are able to finish the race and fight the battle till the end due to the ability to put joy into your works.

But the situation where despair has gain the best of you, you no longer have the power or ability to continue putting joy or pleasure or happiness into your works. Instead, you put more of sadness and complaining into your works. You end up becoming unfit to finish the race and fight till the end and not doing your works well or properly or in the right way.   

13. 13. You will stop chasing your dreams: Despair is powerful enough to take way your treasure or crown or throne or victory or success. Looking at the meaning of despair in the opening paragraph, it is to be without any hope and to totally giving up hope. You can see that when you have no hope of catching your dreams, you will definitely stop chasing your dreams. The truth is that despair is a big distraction on your goals. It takes having faith to keep chasing your dreams when despair strike hard.

Whether you have faith or not, despair will often come when the things you have prayed for and worked for take more time to happen. When this happens, all you need to keep chasing your dreams is your faith or self-confidence. But in most cases, when despair manipulate and influences you without faith, you will stop chasing your dreams.

14. 14. You will become mentally unstable: Mental stability is a function of faith, of hope and of optimism. Mentally stable people tackle their problems as soon as they arise and love going through their problems. They do the things they should be doing and focus more on opportunities. Wavering and indecisions are functions of despair; they affect the stability of the mind. When your mind is not stable, you will not be doing certain things properly. You will even lose your peace of mind. The lack of faith, hope and optimism often lead to despair. When despair manipulate and influences you, it is sure you will become mentally unbalance or unstable.

15. 15. Your faith will always be weak or your faith becomes weaken: Your weak faith have a negative force or impact on your hope. When your faith is weak, your hope will also be weak. And if your hope is weak, definitely, your faith will be weak as well. They affect each other. That is one affect the other. When we give despair the power to rule over us, our faith will tend to be weak but in order to boast our faith we need hope to keep faith and when our hope is down, we need faith to sustain it.

The more despair manipulate and rules over you, the more your faith tend to be weak. And when your faith is weak, you will always doubt yourself into defeat and losing; you will doubt yourself into groping the low way. The low way is a way with less challenges and difficulties. Most people prefer groping it and in the end they never get to achieve their intended cherished desires. Why? Because despair is manipulating them.    

16. 16. You will no longer be willing to pay the price: How can one pay the price? You can pay the price by simply do the things you should be doing. You can also pay the price by doing the right things at the right time and doing well or rightly. You pay the price by going through your problems: by not neglecting your duty, by not evading certain difficult or depressing or distasteful works, by not giving in to indisposition to action and declination to work. Paying the price involved doing the necessary things that are required or expected of you. But when despair dominates you, you will no longer be willing to pay the price. Paying the price is always the quality and function of having faith and hope.                                                                                                                               

When despair manipulates you, the things that will be glittering in your life are very negative things which tend to draw or pull you back or backward from gaining much out of your life and works. If despair strike big time learn to deal with it or tackle it by having faith and hope and optimism.