11 Things That Make You Lose Someone or People You Cannot Replace

 

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11 Things That Make You Lose Someone or People You Cannot Replace

There are different things that can make you to lose somebody you cannot replace in your life. These things are basically behavior issues or problems. Our behaviors towards other people is very important and tell much about us. We either pull people towards us or we push them away. All these depend on our behavior or conducts towards people. Here are some things that can make you to lose people you may not be able to replace them:

1.     1.  Pride: The term pride is the quality or state of being  proud; inordinate self-esteem; an unreasonable conceit of one’s own superiority in talents, beauty, wealth, rank, etc, which manifests itself in lofty airs, distance, reserve, and often in contempt of others. It is proud or disdainful behavior treatment; insolence or arrogance of demeanor; haughty bearing and conduct; insolent exultation; disdain. Pride has several meanings but the one that concern this topic is on the negative side. Pride leads you to have little or no consideration for other people.

You are the center of the attention or attractions. It makes you to step on people the way you like. This pride is very offensive. No wander, Giosue Borsi said, “Men are conquered only by love and kindness, by quiet discreet example which does not humiliate them and does not constrain them to give in. They dislike to be attacked by the man who has no other idea but to overcome them.” Pride pushes people away from you which you may find hard to replace.

2.      2. Greediness or selfishness: Greediness is the quality of being greedy; vehement and selfish desire. It is an excessive desire for food. It is an excessive desire for wealth (usually in large amount). The greedy person want much or all for himself or herself and nothing for others. Their major concern is themselves and nothing more. Being greedy is very offensive to people. When you are greedy, you will never mind what other people are going through. You would not care about their pains. What bothers you is your pleasure. Greediness pushes people away from you if care is not taken for life. It reminds me of the comment, “He who eats alone dies alone.”

3.      3. Maltreatment or ill-treatment: The word maltreatment means abuse, ill treatment, bad-treatment, and ill-usage. It means cruel or inhumane treatment. Going by the meaning of maltreatment, you can see that it is a negative word that depict wickedness, and man inhumanity to man. When you maltreat people, you are giving them the power to dislike you. For every little chance they have, they will love to avoid you. When you abuse others because you better than them or because of the advantages you have over them, you empower them to hate you the more. Maltreatment of other people pushes them away from you.

4.      4. Revealing a friend secret: One thing that destroys friendship faster is to reveal a friend secrets. It is really a very bad habit or thing to betray the confidence or trust somebody have on you. When people trust you with their lives, you need to reciprocate by keeping the secrets, secrets. But when you lack the power to keep the secrets of your friend of friends, you have given them the freedom to move away from you. When this happen, your friends will no longer be able to confide in you again. Revealing a friend secrets pushes him or her away from you. The more you reveal your friends secrets, the more you lose them. 

5.      5. Insincerity or dishonesty: Insincerity is the quality of being insincere; want of sincerity, or of being in reality what one appears to be; dissimulation; hypocritical; deceitfulness; hollowness; untrustworthiness; as, the insincerity of a professed friend. It is also the quality of not being open or truthful; deceitful or hypocritical. When you are not honesty, nobody will like to associate with you. Honesty is the best policy goes the saying. If you are honest people will like to do transactions or carryout activities with you without any sentiment whatsoever. Because you down to earth or straightforward or honest. Dishonesty chase people way from you big time. To pull people to your side, learn to be sincere or honest.

6.       6. Lies: The failure to tell the truth is known as lie. It is to tell an untruth; pretend with intent to deceive. It is a falsehood uttered or acted for the purpose of deception; an intentional violation of truth; an untruth spoken with the intention to deceive. Lie is anything which mislead or disappoints. It is to utter falsehood with an intention to deceive; to say or do that which is intended to deceive another, when he has the right to know the truth, or when morality requires a just representation. As I study the meanings of the word lie given above, I discovered that lie is more than just words; it is also about our actions. That is, lie is both a spoken word and an action.

The word lie is not only limited to what most people already know, the spoken word. The things you do that is meant to deceive other persons is lie as well. When you find it hard to tell yourself the truth, you will also find it hard to tell the truth to others or it will be easy for you to tell lie or do things to mislead people. The act of lying will push away people from you. But saying or doing the truth will pull people who appreciate truth to your side.   

7.      7. You do not believe in people: When you have difficulties in believing in other people, it shows that you seriously have problem in believing in yourself. Believing in other people first of all start with believing in yourself. It is very difficult to believe in other people when you do not believe in yourself. You can help in building other people confidence or trust or faith by having confidence in them. The more you believe in people, the more their faith increases.

There are many people who do not believe in themselves but you can come to their aid by believing in them. By so doing, they will begin to learn how to trust or believe in themselves. Not believing in other people tend to push them away from you. When you believe in people, you are valuing them. When you keep doubting others, you will keep losing them.  

8.      8. Lack of respect: What does respect signify? Respect is a courteous regard for people’s feelings. It is a courteous expression (by word or deed) of esteem or regard. It is the condition of being honored (esteemed or respected or well regarded). It the value you place on people or you have towards other people. If you want to influence other people easily, respect them. That is the magic. But the more you disrespect them, the more you lose them. It is often said that respect is reciprocal. This is a fact. If you cannot give respect to other people, do not expect to be giving one in return. Disrespecting people will push them far away from you.

9.      9. Talking down at people: To talk down means to belittle through talk. It is to speak in a condescending manner, as if to a child. The meaning of to talk down at people is so irritating to the senses. It is to attack their self-pride. Everyone have his or her self-pride to protect. Anything that tend to tamper with a person self-pride is rebuke seriously by the person whose self-pride is being taking away. No one is perfect, mistakes abound to happen.

To conquer other people, learn from what Giosue Borsi said, “Men are conquered only by love and kindness, by quiet discreet example which does not humiliate them and does not constrain them to give in. They dislike to be attacked by the man who has no other idea but to overcome them.” When you talk down on people, you are humiliating them and no one wants to be humiliated. The more you talk down at or on people, the more you lose them for real.

10.  10. Failure in keeping to promise: In relationship and friendship, keeping to promise is highly valued. By people. Some relationship got shattered because one or both persons in the relationship fail to keep to his or her promise or promises. Not keeping to one’s promise is another word for telling a lie or lies to the person the promise was made to. Keeping your promise attracts you to other people.

People tend to like the persons who keep their promises. There is happiness behind keeping promise and sadness behind not keeping to promise. So, the failure to keep to promise tend to raise the anger of the other. The more anger you arose due to the failure to keep your promise, the faster or more you may lose the other person or people. People lose interest in you when you cannot keep your promise.

11.   11. Cheating: Cheating means not faithful to a spouse or lover. It is a deception for profit to yourself. It is violating accepted standards or rules. When you are cheating on other persons, you are not faithful to them. And infidelity has been one major cause of break up in relationship. When you are in a relationship just to profit yourself is cheating. The more you cheat on other people, the more they tend to avoid you and the more you lose them. Cheating on other people makes you to lose people you may not or cannot replace.

In order to prevent losing people we cannot replace in our lives, it is good to learn how to keep them by doing the opposite of the above discuss variables.